The Atlantic Monthly reviews that horrid book Rainbow Party, comparing it with Judy Blume’s books of a past era. The author discusses the s*xual health of today’s teenage girls, rap and p*rnography, mentioning what sounds like a terrible Frontline episode (*s added by me):
What’s most worrisome about this age of blasé bl*wjobs isn’t what the girls might catch (one can contract an STD through oral s*x alone; however, the risk is lower than for most other forms of s*xual transmission), it’s what the girls are almost certainly losing: a healthy emotional connection to their own s*xuality and their own desire. In this context all the unflinching medico-s*xual naughty talk is but a cowardly evasion of a more insidious problem — one resistant to penicillin.
As a parent, I am horrified by the changes that have taken place in the common culture over the past thirty years. I believe that we are raising children in a kind of post-apocalyptic landscape in which no forces beyond individual households — individual mothers and fathers — are protecting children from p*rnography and violent entertainment. The “it takes a village” philosophy is a joke, because the village is now so polluted and so desolate of commonly held, child-appropriate moral values that my job as a mother is not to rely on the village but to protect my children from it.
The modern girl’s casual willingness to perform oral s*x may — as some cool-headed observers of the phenomenon like to propose — be her way of maintaining a post-feminist power in her s*xual dealings, by being fully in control of the s*xual act and of the pleasure a boy receives from it. Or it may be her desperate attempt to do something that the culture refuses to encourage: to keep her own s*xuality — the emotions and the desires, as well as the anatomical real estate itself — private, secret, unviolated. It may not be her technical virginity that she is trying to preserve; it may be her own s*xual awakening — which is all she really has left to protect anymore.
It’s a long article, but worth delving into.